Love, oneness and Gandhi

Have you ever been in love?
Stupid question, everyone has, at some moment of time.
The world looks great, you have so much energy and nothing is impossible to do for the one you love.
Well, its bad if the person you love does not respond, or worse still, has personal goals "orthogonal" to yours, and you end up getting "cheated".
But then if you could have done anything for that person, and that person does something that takes away something from you, how is that cheating? Isn't that what you wanted? Guess sometimes not. Coz you honestly believe that, the person you love, does not see, what you can see, and is going to go down. You try so hard to make the person understand, but it doesn't work out always. Get that, but then the conversation that naturally appears is "I did so much for the person, and yet ...". Hatred arises. Oneness with "people" is lost. There is no room for that person to err, coz you are so vulnerable and constrained in your way of thinking. Love does not constrain, it sets you free. It is your expression to love that person, and that person's expression to be himself/herself.
I gave up on loving the first person i loved, (atleast for a while) coz something happened. Wonder how it would have been for Gandhi, so much love for each and every person on the planet. Non-violence is the only way when you want people you love to understand, that they are misguided in their actions. I have read that it was a nightmare for Britishers to go on attacking people who just stood there and did not resist. The humanity in them revolted. Many went nuts or lost their peace of mind. They persisted and fought a loosing battle, and soon it became too much for them to continue. Gandhi had a lot of followers, because i guess he was there for the people, he was one with them, there was no personal agenda that he had. I guess it is the toughest for relatives of people who are so hell bent on getting their mission resolved. Would someday read how his people felt. "Gandhi, my father" the movie was on the lines i expected. Osho believed that Gandhi was very cunning, i think he was the apostle, that humanity so badly needed. He gave his life, but could not see the destruction of the independence and freedom for which we had struggled.
Hats off father.
Where are we, his sons, headed for? Why are we spreading so much hatred amongst us? Guess, its easy to err, than to stay on the middle path.

Love, marriage and Happiness

Hmm Marriage on the cards, hence rumblings might decrease and the mind might not be idle any more:-)
Just came out of a bad phase with my girlfriend. Well we were blaming each other for this and that and wat not. I can laugh at it now, that it is past me, but it was hellish.
Possessions and Possessiveness. Thou shall do this, thou shall not spend so much money, thou shall be responsible, huh, thou shall take care of my parents.
Am i getting married because i want to have good food, and get taken care of and would give something in return. Is this some kind of a deal, you shall do this and THEN i shall do this.
You shall not do this, huh.
Where did the respect and love for the person vanish? Constraints and restraints.
Why can't both people be free in a married setting? I dont enforce so many rules on my bro, i know he is grown up and can take care of himself, then why was it with my girlfriend. Coz also because i thought rules are getting imposed on me, and then if you make me unhappy, its my solemn duty to make you unhappy, hmm. Stupidity can be recognized easily at hindsight(well thats my original, another one could be that it is your birthright, it actually is:-)

Feel so great, that i do not HAVE to enforce rules, i do not HAVE to follow rules, yeah there would be things that would make sense and then there would be that wouldn't make sense, but then again, i dont HAVE to make sense. Great, looking forward to be with you dearest Shalu, being happy and *letting* you be happy, sorry for the pain i have caused, well i know i am forgiven:-)

Freedom

Habits: an automatic pattern of behaviour in reaction to a specific situation; may be inherited or acquired through frequent repetition(WordWeb)
Job: The principal activity in your life that you do to earn money
Girl Friend: A girl or young woman with whom a man is romantically involved
Romance: An exciting and mysterious quality (as of a heroic time or adventure), A relationship between two lovers
Love: Have a great affection or liking for, Get pleasure from, Be enamoured or in love with
Liking: A feeling of pleasure and enjoyment
Feeling: The experiencing of affective and emotional states, A vague idea in which some confidence is placed, sensation, temporary
Boredom: The feeling of being bored by something tedious
Freedom: The condition of being free; the power to act or speak or think without externally imposed restraints(read habits, job, commitments)

Is life about possessing or is it about experiencing, is it a means to an end or is it a journey to be enjoyed. A new car becomes not so great after a while.
Commitments, attachments: all get boring after a time. Is there a point in sustaining them just because the circumstances are aligned that way or because you once felt attached or commited.

Life: An analysts delight, lol.
Freedom: a dirty word, flawed, the act of freedom causes bondage. An imaginary concept.
Pleasure, feelings, love: things to be experienced and to satiate yourself with. Sustaining feelings or trying to sustain them is stupid.
Reality: Something to wake you up. Something that never lies. Good in the sense it tells you the same thing when you are up, down, you frown or clown.
Me: a stupid who takes delight in analyzing stuff, which is a dangerous habit, from which freedom i shall not seek.

Cheers and a Happy New Year 08