Love, oneness and Gandhi

Have you ever been in love?
Stupid question, everyone has, at some moment of time.
The world looks great, you have so much energy and nothing is impossible to do for the one you love.
Well, its bad if the person you love does not respond, or worse still, has personal goals "orthogonal" to yours, and you end up getting "cheated".
But then if you could have done anything for that person, and that person does something that takes away something from you, how is that cheating? Isn't that what you wanted? Guess sometimes not. Coz you honestly believe that, the person you love, does not see, what you can see, and is going to go down. You try so hard to make the person understand, but it doesn't work out always. Get that, but then the conversation that naturally appears is "I did so much for the person, and yet ...". Hatred arises. Oneness with "people" is lost. There is no room for that person to err, coz you are so vulnerable and constrained in your way of thinking. Love does not constrain, it sets you free. It is your expression to love that person, and that person's expression to be himself/herself.
I gave up on loving the first person i loved, (atleast for a while) coz something happened. Wonder how it would have been for Gandhi, so much love for each and every person on the planet. Non-violence is the only way when you want people you love to understand, that they are misguided in their actions. I have read that it was a nightmare for Britishers to go on attacking people who just stood there and did not resist. The humanity in them revolted. Many went nuts or lost their peace of mind. They persisted and fought a loosing battle, and soon it became too much for them to continue. Gandhi had a lot of followers, because i guess he was there for the people, he was one with them, there was no personal agenda that he had. I guess it is the toughest for relatives of people who are so hell bent on getting their mission resolved. Would someday read how his people felt. "Gandhi, my father" the movie was on the lines i expected. Osho believed that Gandhi was very cunning, i think he was the apostle, that humanity so badly needed. He gave his life, but could not see the destruction of the independence and freedom for which we had struggled.
Hats off father.
Where are we, his sons, headed for? Why are we spreading so much hatred amongst us? Guess, its easy to err, than to stay on the middle path.